Certainly not us. As a matter of fact, we believe that most of us enjoy a little chivalry; both giving and receiving it. The truth is, romance requires some effort as well. Not “work” but effort. A little kindness, respect and gratitude go a long way.

Taking the time to appreciate your partner or even that new person in your life who may become a partner is an emotional investment that bears immeasurable benefits. While we may think we’ve unlearned the gestures, thoughts and rhythms of romance, we really haven’t. We’re just out of practice.

That's why Under The Blue Moon endorses "Project Everlasting."    Project Everlasting's Jason Miller and Mathew Boggs wanted to understand how to keep the love alive in relationships.  So they embarked on a 12,000 mile cross country road trip in an RV, interviewing more than 200 couples who had been married for over 40 years, asking among other questions, what kept them together for so long.  Read all about their wonderful experiences and insight they gained at www.projecteverlasting.com.   

Save Romance (www.saveromance.com) is a national campaign designed to bring the mystery and chivalry back to romance.  

What are some of the things you have done to keep the romance and chivalry alive in your relationship?  Give us your ideas, not only of what you have done, but what you want done.  Communication is one of the secrets to everlasting love. 

 Go  to www.saveromance.com and tell your stories.  Give tips on what works and what doesn't work in relationships, write about your best and worst dates, Rate Your Mate and more!  Share The Good, The Bad and yes, even The Ugly.  We're looking forward to hearing from you!

Here are some tips on Saving Romance:

1)  Don't assume that the person you're romancing is just like you!  A night of ballroom dancing might be the most romantic thing in the world to you, but your partner might feel otherwise!  Remember that no matter how close the person is to you, he or she is an individual, not an extension of yourself.  Surprise your partner by doing something you might not normally do on your own, just because you know it would make them happy.

2)  If your partner doesn't seem to appreciate your efforts, maybe it's not that you have failed to be romantic;  maybe it's that your partner has failed to receive your affection.  Maybe they are not accustomed to being romanced, or maybe they are distracted by other stressors in their life.  If you feel rejected, don't just give up!  Talk about it!

3)  If you are the object of romantic affection, don't dismiss it because it's not romantic to you.  Remember, your partner took a risk!   Be gracious!  Gently tell them what would light your fire.  That way your partner will attempt to romance you again.  Create that safe environment.

4)  Don't forget to laugh!  There is nothing better than seeing your partner's face light up with laughter.  If making yourself out to be a goof is what it takes, then do it and laugh together!

5)  Romance isn't about all of the cliched stuff.  Coming home with their favorite candy bar on a Wednesday, might be more appreciated than roses on Valentine's Day.

6)  Emails are sweet too.  Quick, cheerful, funny emails might be better than poems to some.

7)  Nothing is more romantic than telling your partner what you like about him or her.  Build each other up by reenforcing each other's strengths.